He tends his flock like a shepherd: He gathers the lambs in his arms and carries them close to his heart;
he gently leads those that have young
. {Isaiah 40:11}

15 October 2010

Overconfidence Is Bad for Baby

As I've said in the past, I am a BabyWise Mom. Whereas I don't necessarily follow Ezzo's book to the letter, I was vigilant to stick with the basic principles such as "Eat, Wake, Sleep" and I used the Cry-It-Out method with both kids. Sort of.

It was easy to stick with the program with CJ because, as a first time mom, I had no other direction. If I had a question, I went to my BabyWise book or the Chronicles of a BabyWise Mom blog. These were my lifelines. And then Miss Mak came along and I felt as if I had it all figured out. I didn't need to refrence the book. Heck, by this point, I could quote the book from memory.

Lately, Miss Mak has been struggling with her naps. She has been waking early and unhappy {both morning and afternoon}.CJ did this once in a while too but I was able to let him cry himself back to sleep. See, the key difference between the two of them is that Mak's cry gives me an instant headache... shatters glass...make's dogs howl... is unpleasant and so I give in rather quickly just to silence her. I didn't realize until recently that I was even doing this. She suffered from the "45 Minute Intruder" and, though I thought I was giving her a decent amount of time to cry-it-out, I was really only giving her 5, maybe 10, minutes and then I couldn't take it anymore. {Keep in mind that her door is shut, she's on the other end of our small house, and there is a box fan on high, in the hall, that is used to drown her out and I still ended up giving up.} She was a bit of a mess. It really messed with out eating schedule. Thankfully, I explained this all to the Sweetest of Hubs. I told him that I know she is still tired because she wakes crying {a sure fire sign that baby is still tired} and yet I give in. I told him that I realized I was teaching her that her screaming and whining eventually led to me to give in and that's just not good parenting. I, the "mean-mommy" that I am, was teaching my daughter that whining got her what she wanted.
Shame on me!
Well, the morning came that Hubs stayed home alone with the kiddos and put Mak down for her first nap. He was wonderful and let her cry for 15-20 minutes and she was back out for another hour and fifteen minutes! She then took a full afternoon nap with nary a peep! God is good! Husband is patient. So now, it's my turn. I have been sitting down, getting back into the pages and mundane details of "BabyWise-ing" and we're back on track.
It's not so bad to be reminded of what is expected of us. I guess that's part of why God commands us to hide His word in our hearts.

What have I learned? Be consistent and don't get lazy. 
It's not good for you and it's not fair to your kids.


  1. Heidi has such a piercing cry that we can't leave the windows open during our "cry it outs" because our distant neighbors can hear her :)

    We are currently "un-babywising" her & she is so much more content & happy.

    All babies are different as I am learning with our #3.

  2. Hi Krystle,

    What a sweet blog you have. I love the idea of being a noble wife. :)

    I just wanted to respond to your question on Bloom about sharing the interview with Jane. We are happy to have readers share snippets, etc., but if you'd like to share the post in its entirety, we'd love for you to link back to our site.

    We're so glad you enjoyed it. Isn't Jane amazing?!

    anne from Bloom


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